In other news, LonelyTimeLord and I are planning on dressing up in a very effeminate fashion this coming week, and we were gonna take photos for a friend of ours... we're tempted to post them here as well though, so look out for those.
Also, this will be my first time cross-dressing 'for real' so to speak... should be interesting! :P
theres no way i'd look good in female clothing.
If we're still talking about names and I'm allowed to say second-hand information, my girlfriend went with Mia. I like the name quite a bit.
i already did try and the result was horrible.
The thing with outfits is you gotta assess what works with what, and what works with your body type. research, advice, etc.
I have broad-ass shoulders, and from what I've gathered from the googleverse, light pants with dark tops, most V necks, and baseball shirts are supposed to de-emphasise that. That and easing into it as opposed to jumping off the deep end have been useful I've found
Sockdreams has the best customer service ever, I ordered something yesterday (I lied, get over it) and I was just looking at the Facebook page after and I saw a post that said they were going to post a decent sale coupon later on in the day and I bought my stuff too early before it was posted, so I messaged customer support and just talked to them and they applied it and refunded what was removed with the sale. :3
fuck of course i'll never have money
Welp... time for bed for me. Tomorrow I'm waking up and driving down to my mom's and am gonna break the news to her. That's gonna be the longest 3 hour drive of my life.
I know she'll be supportive since she's asked me before and doesn't mind but god damn I get so nervous and scared when I have a serious moment like that with family. I just start to cry and freak out. Anyone have any tips on how I can break it easily and calmly? Should I say I'm trans and want a therapist or I'm confused about my gender and want a therapist?
Oooh someone ;_;
forget what i said, take the advice below
Don't tell her as if you're unsure that you're transgendered. If you are very certain about being transgendered, then tell her that you are. You'll probably have to explain to her just what it is that you want done with your life. Name change, HRT, SRS, etc.
God damnit. Now I need to go and tell my mom that I want a second chance.
better that than trying to be happy about everything and then having all of my hopes crushed.
-snip- accidentally replied to my post
i guess my main problem with pessimism is that my dad drilled it into my head to expect the worst.
so i always expect the worst and it seems like everything is shit.
Oh god I'm freaking out now. Ignore the first two messages, they aren't related.
This is my mother.
I have no clue how she knew what I wanted to talk about, but.. Seems like she isn't supportive about this. Though it might be that she just doesn't want to me to me to do the operation? I planned that I wont be starting hormons or anything. Maybe she will understand. Oh god I'm crying now, what am I going to tell her when she calls me. I'm panicking and turned my phone off.
I don't know, actually the previous post where I told that when I went to talk to her and then spaced out and left without saying anything I wanted to was caused by her seeing me and then she said: "You look manly today." And I got it as a insult and got confused and stuff like that.
I guess she is joking, but still she doesn't seem to be supportive.. She jokes about all stuff now that I think about it. And she is pretty cool, back in the time when I had my girlfriend she came to me and started joking that I don't have to hide being gay and it was before I told her I'm bisexual (actually I'm pansexual but whatever) and she didn't even mind me smoking weed and she even asked me to bring her sometime...
But the thing is I actually don't want to get the hormones, because I guess it would be too expensive and difficult since my bone structure is too manly to look cute and beautiful no matter how much I try to dress up nice.
otherwise i'd be piss poor, not be able to be on hormones and not have anything at all.
if you have no money, find a way to make some.
everything is shit but it doesn't mean you can't be happy or make yourself happy.
there's no point in even crying about it if you don't try.
ehh, you could not do anything at all because you don't want to.
Expecting the worst is fine. It's the ability to go through with what you're doing that counts.
I believe that's called confidence.
My aunt just gave me a motherload of clothes!
And don't worry about bone structure or anything like that. You'd be surprised how much it takes for somebody to suspect that you're transgender. Most people just take those little imperfections and see them solely as imperfections. You'll be seen as a girl if you present yourself as one.
Well I went to visir my mom today but my sisters were there too so I decided to talk with her another time. She asked me to tell her a hint of what the subject is so I guess she was just lucky getting it right. I told her that she guessed right before I left and not to say anything to my sisters about it. Im currently at my friends place waiting for people to arrive for our bbq party so I wont be seeing my mom again until few days.
Gah I feel like a loser. I'm actually procrastinating by making up excuses so I don't have to drive to my mom's just yet. Whenever I talk to her I feel like a boy/feel like I should ACT like a boy. I'm thinking of not even telling her at this point. Its too confusing and I shouldn't even bother.
Think of it this way. At least you guys have moms that are accepting enough for you to wonder if you should tell them or not. Imagine how you would feel if your parents would NEVER accept you for something like this no matter what.
Work up the courage to tell them, only if you're sure they'll be accepting. And if you are, what's stopping you? I'd run to my mother and tell her right now if she was half as accepting as your moms.