1. Post #1361
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    March 2009
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    I get it she's a bear good joke mate
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  2. Post #1362
    Saq
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    March 2012
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    you might not think that's bad advice but it is bad advice. sexuality is an important part of a healthy relationship and you won't figure yourself out if you hold back and make up some toff attitude about sex. there's quite an aura of sexism to it as well because he's supposedly 18 yet has had sex with a couple of people. not chastity by any means, yet the standard needs to apply to his "future wife".

    is this good advice? what good has sexual reprehension done for people? not to mention non-monogamy has actually saved relationships so this concept of a special bond is completely whack.
    Why do you people promote such promiscuity?
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  3. Post #1363
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    Dennab
    January 2006
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    It's stupid to say "HURR DURR YOU NEED SEX"
    well thank god i never said that, right?

    Edited:

    Why do you people promote such promiscuity?
    because there's nothing wrong with it?
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  4. Post #1364
    Saq
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    March 2012
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    because there's nothing wrong with it?
    There's also nothing wrong with people living non-promiscuous lives and monogamy.
    You didn't answer my question. Would you, please?
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  5. Post #1365
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    Dennab
    January 2006
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    There's also nothing wrong with people living non-promiscuous lives and monogamy.
    You didn't answer my question. Would you, please?
    yes but there is something wrong with telling lies and since this is a thread where the goal is mostly to inform and help others, these lies are not helpful and can be damaging.

    and i did answer your question, it just wasn't the answer you were looking for.
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  6. Post #1366
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    and again, i agree with H4yd3n

    sex can just be sex. it's physical and that's that. yes, sex is normally far more enjoyable when you have an emotional connection with that person already, but don't be so naive as to think that the more people you sleep with the less sex will ever mean to you

    Edited:

    (and i'm really trying not to sound mean here) but i believe you only think that way because you are a virgin

    Edited:



    and precisely what benefit does this give your future spouse, aside from a greatly inexperienced lover? sounds fab!
    i do not agree i have absolutely no desire to have sex with someone i don't care about
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  7. Post #1367
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    Dennab
    January 2006
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    i do not agree i have absolutely no desire to have sex with someone i don't care about
    don't worry rusty the right man will come along
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  8. Post #1368
    Judge, Jury, & Executioner
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    thanks thisispain u know how to make a lady feel better
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  9. Post #1369
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    Dennab
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    please slow down with the insults this thread is for friendly advice!
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  10. Post #1370
    Saq
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    March 2012
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    yes but there is something wrong with telling lies and since this is a thread where the goal is mostly to inform and help others, these lies are not helpful and can be damaging.

    and i did answer your question, it just wasn't the answer you were looking for.
    Yes I agree. Lying is a terrible plague that ruins communities and families.

    My mistake; I was expecting a more in depth answer, but I think I already know the answer.
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  11. Post #1371
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    Dennab
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    Yes I agree. Lying is a terrible plague that ruins communities and families.

    My mistake; I was expecting a more in depth answer, but I think I already know the answer.
    what is the answer
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  12. Post #1372
    uh gee if thats a problem for you yeah probably

    what is the point in asking this? did you expect someone to say "YES IF SHE EATS RAW FISH BAIL IMMEDIATELY"
    Why do I think he's referencing those 4chan ">realize my girlfriend is a bear" posts...
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  13. Post #1373
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    Dennab
    January 2006
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    Yes I agree. Lying is a terrible plague that ruins communities and families.

    My mistake; I was expecting a more in depth answer, but I think I already know the answer.
    plague implies it's something you catch, not something everyone does on a daily basis.
    plus your question wasn't in-depth either, "Why do you people promote such promiscuity?" is a really general question.
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  14. Post #1374
    Saq
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    what is the answer
    Satisfaction, procreation, not being tied down. I was expecting something along the lines of that.
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  15. Post #1375
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    Dennab
    January 2006
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    well it's just monogamy doesn't work for everyone.
    if you're older and in a relationship where one person has zero libido and the other has a huge libido where is the sexual tension going to go besides destroy the relationship? it's gonna end up in someone cheating so either the relationship has to end or the person has to meet their sexual needs consensually.
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  16. Post #1376
    Saq
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    plague implies it's something you catch, not something everyone does on a daily basis.
    plus your question wasn't in-depth either, "Why do you people promote such promiscuity?" is a really general question.
    Wrong metaphor then. Apologies.
    I could not get more in-depth on that question, but it was based off of the past dozen pages of this thread.
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  17. Post #1377
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    well it's just monogamy doesn't work for everyone.
    if you're older and in a relationship where one person has zero libido and the other has a huge libido where is the sexual tension going to go besides destroy the relationship? it's gonna end up in someone cheating so either the relationship has to end or the person has to meet their sexual needs consensually.
    Well, it could also end up with a break up at the better situation. I wouldn't say that monogamy DOESN'T work. You just need to find a more fitting partner. Unless of course you could have some kind of agreeable experience with multiple partners.
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  18. Post #1378
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    Dennab
    January 2006
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    I wouldn't say that monogamy DOESN'T work.
    i didn't say that either.
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  19. Post #1379
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    October 2007
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    well it's just monogamy doesn't work for everyone.
    if you're older and in a relationship where one person has zero libido and the other has a huge libido where is the sexual tension going to go besides destroy the relationship? it's gonna end up in someone cheating so either the relationship has to end or the person has to meet their sexual needs consensually.
    And i wouldn't worry about being cheated on if i know that my partner wasn't sleeping around before she met me. Why? Because she could handle not having sex for however long before she met me, but now she's with someone she loves so i know for fact she won't cheat on me and it doesn't even cross my mind. Just like she won't have to worry about me, because i'm restraining myself now, to prove that i can restrain myself then.

    You on the other hand, would worry since your girls don't have to pass any sort of qualifications.

    No body gives two shits if you fuck everything that comes you're way. If that's what you're after, then i'm glad for you. This whole "Debate", though this barely fits that category- more like a bunch of kids being mean to a substitute teacher, wasn't putting down people for having sex as they please.

    It was to say, though it's an old way to view love and romance, waiting is nothing to be ashamed of. And how could you say anything against it unless you've tried waiting?

    No 1 sex life style is going to fit everyone. That's for damned sure. But that doesn't make you gay, or a pussy for not wanting to sleep around before meeting someone you love. And if you need multiple partners to develop skill, well i guess thats the same as special ed for sex.

    But i'd much prefer to reveal myself on that level to someone i love and trust.
    (Notice how i say i'd much rather than everyone should)
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  20. Post #1380
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    Dennab
    January 2006
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    And i wouldn't worry about being cheated on if i know that my partner wasn't sleeping around before she met me. Why? Because she could handle not having sex for however long before she met me, but now she's with someone she loves so i know for fact she won't cheat on me and it doesn't even cross my mind. Just like she won't have to worry about me, because i'm restraining myself now, to prove that i can restrain myself then.
    cheating doesn't happen because someone slept around when they were younger. cheating either happens when sexual needs can't be met or dealt with in an appropriate matter or when someone is upset at the state of the relationship and starts acting destructive. you're totally in-the-clouds when it comes to cheating, have you even been cheated on before?

    You on the other hand, would worry since your girls don't have to pass any sort of qualifications.
    if we were in a bar i swear to god...

    wasn't putting down people for having sex as they please.
    saying that someone is more valuable as a person if they don't sleep with a lot of people doesn't count as putting down?

    It was to say, though it's an old way to view love and romance, waiting is nothing to be ashamed of. And how could you say anything against it unless you've tried waiting?
    it's not an old way to view love and romance, sorry to burst your bubble but people have been fucking like rabbits since the dawn of man.

    And if you need multiple partners to develop skill, well i guess thats the same as special ed for sex.
    lol can you even read my posts from the top of that throne?
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  21. Post #1381
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    October 2007
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    cheating doesn't happen because someone slept around when they were younger. cheating either happens when sexual needs can't be met or dealt with in an appropriate matter or when someone is upset at the state of the relationship and starts acting destructive. you're totally in-the-clouds when it comes to cheating, have you even been cheated on before?
    no

    if we were in a bar i swear to god...
    shivering

    saying that someone is more valuable as a person if they don't sleep with a lot of people doesn't count as putting down?
    thats not what i said.

    it's not an old way to view love and romance, sorry to burst your bubble but people have been fucking like rabbits since the dawn of man.
    irrelevant

    lol can you even read my posts from the top of that throne?
    no
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  22. Post #1382
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    And i wouldn't worry about being cheated on if i know that my partner wasn't sleeping around before she met me. Why? Because she could handle not having sex for however long before she met me, but now she's with someone she loves so i know for fact she won't cheat on me and it doesn't even cross my mind. Just like she won't have to worry about me, because i'm restraining myself now, to prove that i can restrain myself then.

    You on the other hand, would worry since your girls don't have to pass any sort of qualifications.

    No body gives two shits if you fuck everything that comes you're way. If that's what you're after, then i'm glad for you. This whole "Debate", though this barely fits that category- more like a bunch of kids being mean to a substitute teacher, wasn't putting down people for having sex as they please.

    It was to say, though it's an old way to view love and romance, waiting is nothing to be ashamed of. And how could you say anything against it unless you've tried waiting?

    No 1 sex life style is going to fit everyone. That's for damned sure. But that doesn't make you gay, or a pussy for not wanting to sleep around before meeting someone you love. And if you need multiple partners to develop skill, well i guess thats the same as special ed for sex.

    But i'd much prefer to reveal myself on that level to someone i love and trust.
    (Notice how i say i'd much rather than everyone should)
    and thats why u don't have a gf

    goodnight
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  23. Post #1383
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    Dennab
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    And i wouldn't worry about being cheated on if i know that my partner wasn't sleeping around before she met me. Why? Because she could handle not having sex for however long before she met me, but now she's with someone she loves so i know for fact she won't cheat on me and it doesn't even cross my mind. Just like she won't have to worry about me, because i'm restraining myself now, to prove that i can restrain myself then.

    You on the other hand, would worry since your girls don't have to pass any sort of qualifications.

    No body gives two shits if you fuck everything that comes you're way. If that's what you're after, then i'm glad for you. This whole "Debate", though this barely fits that category- more like a bunch of kids being mean to a substitute teacher, wasn't putting down people for having sex as they please.

    It was to say, though it's an old way to view love and romance, waiting is nothing to be ashamed of. And how could you say anything against it unless you've tried waiting?

    No 1 sex life style is going to fit everyone. That's for damned sure. But that doesn't make you gay, or a pussy for not wanting to sleep around before meeting someone you love. And if you need multiple partners to develop skill, well i guess thats the same as special ed for sex.

    But i'd much prefer to reveal myself on that level to someone i love and trust.
    (Notice how i say i'd much rather than everyone should)
    your posts just scream insecurity

    do you seriously need to date a virgin to feel secure in that she won't cheat on you?
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  24. Post #1384
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    October 2007
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    your posts just scream insecurity

    do you seriously need to date a virgin to feel secure in that she won't cheat on you?
    It comes down to preference, i would prefer to find a girl with maybe not a perfectly clean track record, but one that isn't like a receipt after a costco trip.


    And since that's what i would prefer to find, it's only fair that i be the person that i'm looking for, is looking for.
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  25. Post #1385
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    Dennab
    January 2006
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    thats not what i said.
    you haven't really said much, you're mostly just rambled and told "the virgins" some stuff about how if they wait they'll be "prized beings".

    and you've never been cheated on before so how exactly could you be an expert on it?
    and finally, if you can't trust someone who's had multiple sexual partners around other men, it's probably your fault.

    also, don't insult my better-half please. you don't know her.
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  26. Post #1386
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    you haven't really said much, you're mostly just rambled and told "the virgins" some stuff about how if they wait they'll be "prized beings".

    and you've never been cheated on before so how exactly could you be an expert on it?
    and finally, if you can't trust someone who's had multiple sexual partners around other men, it's probably your fault.

    also, don't insult my better-half please. you don't know her.
    i wont. i apologize, i dont think i even realized i was doing so.

    its not that i can't trust someone whos had an extensive list of partners. its that i'd trust someone that's more picky much more.
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  27. Post #1387
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    Dennab
    January 2006
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    You on the other hand, would worry since your girls don't have to pass any sort of qualifications.
    fyi they pass all the qualifications, with flying colours...
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  28. Post #1388
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    October 2007
    527 Posts
    That line must have really hit some buttons eh?
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  29. Post #1389
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    December 2006
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    okay guys if it's just gonna turn into bickering it's probably about time to finish up with this current disagreement...
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  30. Post #1390
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    Dennab
    January 2006
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    how's your morning autumn?
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  31. Post #1391
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    great thank you. i am listening to a wonderful music show, and today is a blues special, a lot of 40s/50s loveliness

    Edited:

    how is your morning?
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  32. Post #1392
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    great thank you. i am listening to a wonderful music show, and today is a blues special, a lot of 40s/50s loveliness

    Edited:

    how is your morning?
    I'd like to remind you guys.... "Sex, Girlfriends and Shit III".
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  33. Post #1393
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    Dennab
    January 2006
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    great thank you. i am listening to a wonderful music show, and today is a blues special, a lot of 40s/50s loveliness

    Edited:

    how is your morning?

    oh i live in california so we're about 8 hours apart. i'm getting ready for bed. it's the weekend, naturally, so i get to stay up late and sleep in.

    Edited:

    I'd like to remind you guys.... "Sex, Girlfriends and Shit III".
    she's passed out on the couch, so cute with the blanket on her
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  34. Post #1394
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    Going out with a girl who's a virgin when your not is sometimes a little frustrating.
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  35. Post #1395
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    Dennab
    January 2006
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    Going out with a girl who's a virgin when your not is sometimes a little frustrating.
    how so?
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  36. Post #1396
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    August 2005
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    cuz u wana fuc but she duno how penis lol
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  37. Post #1397
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    Then you can teach her and it'll be all romantic and shit.
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  38. Post #1398
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    August 2006
    3,341 Posts
    cuz u wana fuc but she duno how penis lol

    ?
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  39. Post #1399
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    January 2007
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    Girlfriend of over one year, long distance, just broke up with me. She says she doesnt know where we're headed, and just wants a break. She's my first love, and viceversa. Im in such a shock, i dont know what to do. She says she wants to stay best friends and still wants to end up together, but not right now. What the fuck do i do...


    edit: Today's our 1, and a half anniversary too. Wow what a day to do it.
    It sucks, really does. I remember my first "relationship" was a primarily LDR one.

    In the end IMO it is for the best. It'll be a hard few months but that's okay - even if you have to tell her that you'll just be better not talking again instead of being friends, or at least not talking for a while (don't even dream about getting back together becuase 9/10 it won't work).

    LDR's are a bad thing to get involved with though. They never work. Never ever. The only time it'll somewhat work is if you already were in a signifigant relationship with someone IRL for a while, and they moved, and you had some reasonable capacity to move to them within a reasonable sphere or time. Other than that, an LDR just won't work. In this sense, it's for the best. You need real-life relationships for intimacy, it just doesn't work over the net.
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  40. Post #1400
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    Hey guys, i dont normally post in threads like this, but if you guys could help, that be great.

    I started uni recently, and theres this girl in one of my tutorials (which is once a week) who i like, and talk to most tutorials. Conversations fine, and i make her laugh and such, but how would i know if she likes me? Ive heard that playful touching is a big indicator, but none of that has happened yet. I dont want to misinterpret being friendly for actually liking me, cause that could end up awkward. And im in her group for a group assignment, so thatll give me a chance to talk to her more, but i dont want to leave it late and end up friendzoned. On the other hand, if i ask her out and get recjected, itll be pretty awkward for the rest of the semester.

    I'm not socially awkward or anything i can talk to girls fine, just wondering what the best way to go would be from here. Thanks guys :)
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