Nodex has their ECS, which is really crappy and they're the only servers that uses it for a reason, + they have this fucked up rank system where fucktards have these admin commands that they shouldn't have. Ontop of that, none of the admins on the servers knows anyone, so if you spawn something you've uploaded somewhere they'll tell you to make your own stuff and kick you.
There fixed that for you. There's like 3 guys I can stand that plays on nodex, Generic, Kee-Wee and Wenli. Gibbo vouched for someone called Hatred methinks. Rest are pretty much spawn my shit and kicking me for telling them that it wasn't meant for having a bunch of GDX or GCX on it. Either that or LOLOLOL PERSON RESIZER TOOL LOLOLOL.
Hangouts I'd recomend would be like you said SS, then the goon public; GGG - Tokshnet or something like that, or the nodex servers when one of the 4 above guys are there.