I've been watching videos on youtube from different forum members and I see why it's fun to go to war or have gun battles, but I actually enjoy the game because of gathering, storing, and building. Player vs Environment. I guess I've stuck around or fell in love with Rust because I always get my stuff stolen and never really have a chance to "complete" my builds before someone ruins it by putting a pillar in the middle of the foundation or something. But for me, I enjoy that aspect. I now play on an empty server because of it.
I've never played minecraft and I'm not interested in playing legos, as I do enjoy the realism of the graphics. The visual of that game do remind me of legos, so I just can't get into it. Am I playing rust for the wrong reason (not that I will stop playing or other's opinions matter THAT much in my Rust life, but for discussion sake)?
Also, when I watch videos of guys walking up and saying friendly, just to shoot the other guy in the face, I get turned off. I guess I play with "game" integrity in that if I say friendly, I mean it. That no longer has meaning and I know I am a girl or just old fashion, but KOS is the biggest downside I guess to PvP. No realism in that in my honest opinion. Unless it was a rock or bow battle.
For the record, in Fable I refused to do anything evil. lol
I think you just need to find a good group with roles as everyone likes to do different things. I like to gather, I LOVE the base design aspect(your genearal clutter of your loot room in episode 6 almost killed me inside) however I also love to raid / run around and shoot at people. For me I can't do one of these to long before I get tired of it. So after 2 or 3 resources runs / building I'm itching to draw my P250 and head out somewhere. However I would love to get a group together again where we had mixed roles.
The group I usually played with mostly quit until more content comes out and some bug fixes, however prior to them leaves we had a collector/base builder. He just loved to collect and base build which was great as we would just protect him or let him roll with that while we raided towns and did other activities. We had another person that was a great shot so he usally ran point when we did raids or ran around. The group all had there strengths that played on each other. I think if you found a good server with a good group you could totally play that roll and sub into others when you feel like you wanted to. Don't let other dictate how you want to play the game.
On a side note, I guess your mail box was getting destroyed as I noticed you cut out the cleavage in your pic lol, probably wise.